Day in and day out, assaults on confidence and personal self-esteem attack kids in every environment possible. Take this scenario for example; At school, a bully makes fun of your child. At home, your child tries to accomplish a task he thinks he can manage, then fails. In the neighborhood, your child tries to play basketball with the other kids, but is the last one picked for the teams. In homework, your child gets easily frustrated by a simple math problem and continues on a downward spiral of low self-esteem.
But how do parents know if their child suffers from low self-esteem and thus a low confidence level? How can you identify this? Here are a few areas you should probably take a look at:
“I Quit!” Attitude
Your child may not say the words “I Quit” but it could be all over his/her expression. Upon starting something, whether it is a game, an activity, a sport, or homework, your child may get easily frustrated and remark that doing the work or activity is not worth it. He may not want to attend the event. He may get angry and/or upset with the slightest difficulty of the task.
Physical Body Language
You often see your child walk with his/her head held low looking at the ground as he/she walks. Parents with children that have low confidence also notice their children tend to keep their hands in their pockets and are not very eager to point, handle or get excited about touching an object of interest, like a new ball or perhaps an exhibit at school. A final demonstration of how low confidence might demonstrate itself through body language, is an unwillingness to ever be a leader or do something for the first time. Usually these children would rather follow others than step up to the front.
Children who have low confidence are the very first to get bullied or picked on at school. Your child may never be in a physical confrontation, but the verbal assaults by other children, which are inflicted to demean your child, often do more damage to confidence than physical blows.
Confidence and good grades are directly tied together. Those students who possess high confidence tend to do better in school than those who don’t. One reason for bad grades could be because your child feels too embarrassed to ask the teacher questions. He/She does not want to appear “dumb” or “stupid” in front of his or her classmates. Homework often tends to end up in a battle between frustrated parents and anxious children to complete the work given.
How can karate benefit a child with low confidence?
In elementary school, the primary purpose of the teacher is to provide the necessary skills or reading, writing and arithmetic to the student in order for him/her to successfully excel in school. In a certified karate center, the instructor’s primary purpose is to teach martial arts related to the attitude of a Black Belt, such as: confidence, self-control, perseverance and above all an “I can” attitude.
A qualified instructor at a karate center can effectively motivate your child to succeed to his/her best and can help your child gain a sense of worth and accomplishment through an active goal setting program. It is important however, that when a parent is choosing a karate program for their child, the parent looks at the center that teaches more than just punching and kicking. An excellent karate center will have a “Life Skills” program designed to influence your child in and out of karate. Their instructors should be willing to work with you, to help you and your child reach the attitude and behavioral goals you set from the beginning of the program.
There is hope out there for parents and children who need help in the area of confidence and low self-esteem! It may be just one kick away!